Today’s vocabulary word, boys and girls, is “ghosted.” This is when someone you are interested in suddenly just disappears and stops returning your texts or talking to you. I just learned this word because it happened to me.
It’s a long story that really doesn’t matter now, but I met someone “live” in a coffee shop in town a couple of weeks ago. We hit it off, he seemed to be really interested in me, he friended me on Facebook and called me. He told me how pretty he thought I was, liked my figure, etc. He picked me up from the airport when I returned from a business trip, took me to breakfast, and I thought we had a splendid time. He texted me later that afternoon. And the next day.
I asked him if he would like to come over to a cook out I was having on Friday, he said he would if he didn’t go see his father.
I never heard from him again.
Meanwhile he posted all weekend on Facebook from our town, so he apparently didn’t go see his father.
What. The. Fuck. Am. I. Doing. Wrong?????
Then I find out from someone who knows him that he’s got a reputation for being clingy and hanging around a lot when he finds someone. So let me get this straight…now even the clingy needy guys don’t want to be around me? I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, I really don’t. I’ve tried every dating service, and every approach and I am still batting a big fat zero.
One of my besties tells me not to give up, she’s sure there’s someone out there for me. It’s very hard to remain optimistic about that after all this time and effort. And then there’s the people who say “stop making an effort, and it will happen.” Well, I’ve tried that, too, and it doesn’t work.
I guess being alone is just what I’m destined for and I’m really okay with that. I just thought at some point I might run into someone I could go do stuff with, and at least be friends with. Can’t even seem to manage that. dat